What's it all about subbie?

The most common thing I have ever noticed is that most everyone seems to think that being 'in the lifestyle' means that one must know how to take a beating.

This simply isn't true.

What is true, is that one must be willing to accept punishment.

"But, but.....", you stutter, "Why is that the only thing we ever see in regards to this?" Well, it is certainly the most attention grabbing that's for sure. Most every website you go to will be all about various means of making you squirm in discomfort, especially if you are aroused by subbies being forced to provide sexual stimulation to their master or mistress. Actually, most people are attracted to the sexual aspect of it. I turn down and am turned down by people who expect me to punish them by some sort of sexual turn on. I don't think so.

The exceptions are mostly for forced feminization. Sissy training usually involves more humiliation than actual beatings. There are, of course, exceptions to this, indeed, with most everything I have stated thus far. But, if stated them, this blog would end up as long as the web itself.

Most people overlook service training.

"Huh?", you say.

Don't grunt, it's not nice. Service training is so much more involved. You need actual intelligence to know how to go into such training. Any one can be beaten. Not everyone can go into service. For that, you need your wits around you. You need to know etiquette. You need to know time management. And, you need patience...and in most cases you get to keep somewhat dressed.

It's been written, in a book of bdsm erotica, that the hardest thing for a slave to learn is patience. This is true for most of us in general. It is often overlooked by many. We are a 'right the fuck now' culture. Its like we expect our slaves/subs/bottoms to know what we are thinking or what to expect even when we know they know absolutely nothing. It seems we expect them to absorb it by divine touch when they decide they want to explore bdsm.

"Get to the punishment part already! That's hot!"

One of the first rules of thumb for a dominant should be that they need to have control over themselves before they attempt to exert control over another. They should never hit someone when they are angry. They should never hit their sub when under the influence of something mind altering. They should never touch anyone when they are ill or the s/s/b is ill. This is all common sense people. But common sense isn't very common at times. Have control over yourself first before taking control of someone else. Don't make me come after you.

So again...service is often overlooked by people because its not as flashing as being able to show off your flogging skills or whip skills or any other skills you might have. But a properly train service s/s/b will be there to take your coat, fetch your drink, rub your shoulders/feet/etc and is 100 times more valuable than the body on a cross.

And you get to punish them if they mess up.

"YES!", you shout, "Punishment!!! yes!"

You ingrate, why should I waste my time trying to teach you anything useful..........

Punishment or the threat of it is essential in the training of a service s/s/b. C'mon, think about it. If it were a paying job, and if any of you are in the service industry (you should know this) fail at the job and you are punished maybe by being sacked or demoted or pay cut. Its no less painful than if your boss took a cane to you. Maybe worse if you are a sensitive sort of person or if you really need that paycheck..... You need to know that failing in your service to whomever could result in some sort of dire punishment.

"But you beat people," you say, "You have a list of bad boys that you punish".

Of course I do. They are bad and I punish them for what they have done wrong. Its a dirty job (maybe I should call that hunk from the tv show "Dirty Jobs"....) and someone has to do it. Why shouldn't that person be me?

'nuff said